The New Year acts as a turning point for a lot of us. We make resolutions and vow to do something better—diet, exercise, self-improvement, employment or educational goals, and more.
But while we’re working on achieving something new once we turn the calendar over, many of us heap worry and concerns on ourselves that we cannot control. We overburden our hearts and our minds, with guilt, negativity, expectations (sometimes unrealistic or out of our control), or worries or pain about our past.
How much are you carrying around inside your head that you will never have the power to change?
Maybe Elsa, one of the main characters of Disney’s hit animated film Frozen, had it right when she sang “Let It Go.” While letting go of these worries and negativity probably won’t have you dancing in the middle of a snow storm on a mountain, at the very least, you may find a sense of peace.
Here are four things to let go of in the New Year, but more importantly, here’s how you can work through them:
1. Negativity
We see this everywhere—friends, family, strangers. Negativity doesn’t only come from within ourselves. It begins like a disease, affecting a handful of people, who then infect those around them. Before you know it, there’s an entire group of people who bond over negative feelings. In many ways, you become the company that you keep. This can be drama llamas, people who spread rumors, or those who see the worst in everything. As milspouses, we’ve seen plenty of it.
Keep in mind that I don’t mean you should rid yourself of all negative emotions. For example, grief is a “negative” emotion, but it’s necessary for healing. I’m referring to the negativity that has no real purpose except to drag down yourself and others.
So how can you escape that?
Forbes magazine shared a few useful suggestions:
• Practice becoming aware of the thoughts when you have them. While you can’t control the actions of others, you can control your own thoughts. Recognize that you’re having a negative thought, process it in your mind as such, and tuck it away as a story that you’re telling yourself. Don’t fixate on it.
• Spend more time with positive people. You know that whole “becoming the company you keep” thing? Yep. Remember that negative people are rarely optimistic. Rub elbows with people who leave you feeling better.
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